According to her , she was molested when she was in high school – by a priest – and for the longest time she blamed herself and kept quiet about it because she did not think anybody will believe her . She couldn ’ t even go to her family to talk about it . . . “You shouldn’ t let your past determine what your destiny will be, we all have our past whether good or bad or makes us unhappy , we all had a life that we lived that we are not happy about , you shouldn ’ t let it bother you from succeeding.
When I was a young girl in my early teens in high school , I was molested by a catholic priest , i blamed myself , i didn ’ t tell anyone because i was ashamed , couldn ’ t tell anyone cos i felt everyone would blame me , so i carried on the guilt and bitterness with me for years .
I was filled with hate and i became a angry person , i was rebellious, i didn ’ t want to listen to anybody… and because i wanted to be expelled from school to avoid seeing this person , i would do so many terrible things , everything around me was just so negative , i felt i wasn ’ t good enough … .
Anyway i moved on to the university, met the love of my life and i ’ m like , okay this guy is cool , he loves me … and then he started to abuse me … . i was beaten black and blue all the time , in front of friends, in public and at a point i felt, you know what I am not worthy enough , there is nothing about me that is nice , nobody loves me .
But i hid this from my family… . i felt like a loser . . so it was hard for me to focus . . so one day i woke up and said i am going to change my story and i dumped that person , focus on my education and decided to be serious and be something … . i decided to get a job and go to school full time in America …
I worked hard … my parents were sending me money cos I didn ’ t tell them i was working but i was working because i wanted to be independent … I didn ’ t want to depend on any man or on my parents even though they would have done anything for me … so i did all sorts of job , i was a make up artiste , i worked in a cafe , school library, i did so many things and i didn ’ t realise that these jobs were building me up as a person , building my resume , my confidence … . people began to like me because i was adding value to their lives … . at work i was excellent and so was i in school and that built me as a strong woman … and at some point , i sought counseling to get over my molestation issues where i was made to see reasons why i wasn ’ t at fault cos i was a child then … today I am accomplished . You can be whatever woman you want to be but you have to believe in yourself , if they reject you today, it doesn ’ t mean you should let your dreams die , you have something unique about you .
Look at my husband ( Peter Okoye ) , when i met him peeps were like what are you doing with him, he has nothing but i stood my ground and choose to stick with him cos he had a dream. He and his twin brother did not let their dream die , they worked hard . . look at them today!
I stuck by him cos he had focus and drive and today i am happy, i have a good life , we are happy and we have got a beautiful family . No one can make you a loser. ”
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